On The Subject Of Trans Widows

A Trans Widow Is A Woman Whose Male Partner Has Come Out As Transgender

There are lots of reasons why a woman would initiate a divorce. Perhaps one reason is that the man is abusive. Perhaps another is he struggles with an addiction that he refuses to seek help and break and she sees that she either has to leave him or risk becoming co-dependent herself.

Then there’s the subject of autogynephilia where a man becomes more in love with the idea of himself as a woman than loving an actual woman or when he comes out as trans.

But I repeat myself.

To be clear, this doesn’t just happen “all of a sudden”: a man will go to great lengths to hide this fact from his wife for years, even long after he’s fathered a child or three but the signs were there all along.

Perhaps the wife has noticed certain of her clothing has gone missing or perhaps the wife has had a peek at her husband’s browser history and noticed there’s a lot of tranny porn in his searches.

The truth is the signs were there. The signs were always there.

The wife doesn’t always initiate the nuclear option of divorce immediately upon finding out her husband likes to put on lipstick, a dress and call himself Susan. Women, in general, have good hearts and often times will try to accommodate their husband’s peculiar kinks to save their marriages, but only for so long and until it becomes intolerable.

It starts with the husband demanding validation by forcing his wife to play along with his delusion which, in and of itself, is an unreasonable demand - and that’s the best case scenario even though this is a violation of the wife’s sexual boundaries and an attempt to trap her in a “lesbian” relationship if you accept the premise that transwomen are women.

The worst is he forces his wife to act out degrading or violent porn inspired sex.

This is the part where it becomes clear to the wife that her husband’s ever escalating peccadilloes have now blossomed into a full blown mental illness that is putting her in danger, possibly even her being killed, and however slight that chance may be fragile, high-maintenance people are an irritant in life, especially being married to one.

My grandfather (God Rest His Soul) once imparted a piece of wisdom to me when he cautioned that one should never, ever under any circumstances stick your dick in crazy and what he meant by that was it’s never, ever under any circumstances a good idea to initiate a romantic or even sexual relationship with a person suffering from or dealing with a mental illness and for women this advice can be modified as never let crazy stick it’s dick in you.

A mental illness is and can be a deal-breaker for just about anyone and, sure, it’s quite possible to love, cherish and stand with someone who has a mental illness but usually the person suffering from said mental illness has the humility to seek real help for their issues.

Not so with a man who believes himself trans.

A man such as this thinks it’s worth becoming medicalized for life to fulfill their fetish. A man such as this consistently refuses to do what is easier and necessary by accepting himself for who and what he is and if he can’t accept himself for who and what he is then how is his wife supposed to do the same?

It should be clear that if a man such as this seeks validation for being trans over a healthy marriage the wife has the right to banish a man such as this from her life.

To men such as this I say that your choice to be trans ruins your wife’s sex life unless she’s depraved and degenerate enough to have sex with a plush toy. Your choice also impacts the people around you negatively, certainly your wife and especially your children if you have any so, of course, she at least should have had a say in your decision.

Put another way, if my wife decided to become a transgender male she would be given an ultimatum: either you knock this trans shit off and start acting like a normal human being or get the fuck out. If she was narcissistic enough to engage in navel-gazing over something as ridiculous and improbable as her “gender identity” she would suddenly find herself to be someone I would never share my bed with ever again and I certainly wouldn’t allow her to be around my kids as I would make damn sure she lost custody of them and would never be granted visitation rights.

Harsh, you say?

I have a right to choose. Wives have the right to choose. We should have the right to choose if for no other reason than to keep our spouses in check before they destroy themselves body and soul, before they traumatize their children for the sake of their autogynephile fantasies.

If a husband goes to his wife and tells her he has a problem, be it gambling, drinking, drugs, sex or porn addiction, it’s a sign he wants to become a better man for the sake of his family but a trans identified man will not do this and their activist advocates seek to eliminate any other options to seek help and the men that do “come out” to their wives rarely, if ever, do so with the intention of getting better because men such as this don’t want help - they just want their wives to validate their fantasies, which is an already unreasonable demand outside of marriage.

Men such as this forfeit their right to complain when their wives decide to run toward the nearest exit and exit they should as staying in this marriage with the intention of trying to “change” these unrepentant narcissists is toxic.

Friends, real friends, would never let other friends go down the path of self-destructive behavior. Friends, real friends, would hold an intervention. And friends, real friends, would gladly do this for someone who truly seeks help by first admitting they have a problem.

But this only goes so far because, at some point when you have made it clear you won’t ever change, they’ll need to take care of themselves and avoid getting dragged into Hell along with you and then they’ll sever all ties and contact with you and just let you be.

One of the complaints I often hear from trans identified men (and women) is how “cruel” and “heartless” it was that their friends and families didn’t accept their transness and that’s because their friends and families understood that being trans is a mental illness, utterly degenerate and completely unhealthy and they’re not going to stick around while they (the trans men and women) descend into madness, self-mutilation and (eventually) suicide.

I’m reasonably sure that people marry for love much like everyone else but where it falls apart is when one half of the marriage makes the decision that their own selfish interest is more important than the sake of their marriage and/or for their kids and when a man decides he’s trans, the wife becomes a trans widow and this label is quite accurate when a woman is in mourning over the loss of a man they married: a man who is clearly confused about what he is and was willing to alienate the woman who loved him in spite of it.

I also find the term “deadname” interesting and correct for trans identified males to describe their past selves because it says to me that others reserve the right to mourn the loss of that person.

Trans people can’t accept themselves for what they truly are after a lifetime of pretending. They make the cowardly decision to run away from reality and to mutilate themselves into a parody of what they hope to become. They choose what they think is an easy way out of their mental and emotional issues.

Such people are never marriage material.

And such people hate themselves for who they are so they’ll twist themselves by mutilating their genitalia and ingesting the wrong sex hormones in hopes they will become something they can never get on their own.

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